Showing posts with label pride. Show all posts
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Sunday, September 1, 2019

Humility that opens ourselves to others

Blessed Pier Giorgio Frassati


Homily: 22nd Sunday in Ordinary Time – Cycle C
Friends, today’s readings call us to think about and attend to the virtue of humility in our lives.  Why humility?  Well, if there’s one thing that we can learn from the first sin, it’s that we can overestimate our ability to comprehend a given situation and its consequences, leading us to bite off more than we can chew (pun intended) and end up in an embarrassing situation or, worse yet, suffering some severe consequences for our actions, as our first parents did in the Garden of Eden.  “Pride goeth before the fall”, the saying goes, and so our Scriptures today call us to humility.
In our reading from the wisdom writings of Ben Sirach, we hear that humility, far from limiting our influence with others and God’s favor of us, will actually increase them.  And if we think about it, this makes sense.  While we often think that those who are proud and who think highly of themselves tend to win the esteem of others, usually this is limited to those whose accomplishments are exceptional; and so, the esteem that they hold is really about their accomplishments more than it is about who they are as persons.  In everyday living, however—that is, in and among the people with whom we interact everyday—we recognize that it is the unassuming person, the humble person, whom we admire most.  This is the person who puts others before him or herself, who doesn’t brag about accomplishments, but rather about the accomplishments of others, and who is always open to being corrected, in spite of the fact that he/she may be well-learned in a particular topic or skill.
And so, it follows that this person is more favored by God.  The one who doesn’t assume he/she knows best, but rather submits to God and his judgments in all things, receives God’s favor.  Just look at the example of Jesus: who, when he was approached by a man who called him “Good Teacher”, turned and said, “Why do you call me good?  Only God is good...”  Although he was God incarnate in human flesh, he knew that, in his human nature, he must not seek the praise of others, but point always to his Father in heaven.  Thus, Saint Paul says, in his famous Canticle, “...because of this, God highly exalted him and bestowed on him the name above every other name...”  ///  The humble person is esteemed by others and finds favor with God.
Then, in the Gospel, we read how Jesus used a dinner party to teach his disciples this lesson about humility.  While he watched the guests jockey for positions of prominence, he probably noticed that a few of them were positioning themselves higher in rank than they really were, trying to make themselves look better.   Jesus knew what we all know and that is that when you try to exalt yourself, people see right through it and you usually come off worse for it.  But when you accept your place and always try to put others before you, people see that, too, and will usually be generous with you to offer a better place.  If not, you’re no worse for it, since you didn’t risk suffering the consequences of embarrassment (or, possibly, something worse).
Jesus then turns to the host of the dinner—and I love this part—and he instructs him in radical humility.  He says, “when you hold a lunch or dinner, do not invite your friends or your brothers or your relatives or your wealthy neighbors, in case they may invite you back and you have repayment.  Rather, when you hold a banquet, invite the poor, the crippled, the lame, the blind; blessed will you be for their inability to repay you.”  Who of us, right, ever thinks this way?  We all love fellowship with our relatives, friends, and neighbors.  Can it really be that Jesus is telling us never to have them over for dinner?  Well, I think that, since we believe Sacred Scripture to be inspired by the Holy Spirit, we need to take seriously the idea that Jesus may mean this literally (and, of course, that the promise of being repaid at the resurrection is also literally true).  But if we look at it simply as a dichotomy—that is, as either “this” or “that”—then I think we might be thinking too narrowly.
Remember that one of the things that we hold in tension as Christians is the “both/and”.  For example, we believe that Jesus is both God and Man.  We believe that the kingdom of God is both here now and still coming.  And so, when we look at this, while striving to take Jesus for his word, we should look for the “both/and” in the situation.  In other words, is there a way to live his teaching in which we can enjoy the fellowship of close relatives, friends, and neighbors without neglecting the poor, crippled, lame, and blind?  I think that the answer is “yes”, and I’d like to share an example with you to explain why.
Pier Giorgio Frassati was a young man from Turin, Italy, who lived in the early 1900s.  He was the son of an Italian ambassador; and so, needless to say, he came from a prominent family who lived with all of the trappings that a wealthy businessman and ambassador could provide for his family.  Nonetheless, from an early age, Pier Giorgio displayed a great empathy and devotion to the poor.  It was said that once, when he was around 5 years old, a poor mother and her child came to the Frassati home looking for help.  Pier Giorgio noticed that the child didn’t have shoes, so he quickly ran and got a pair of his own shoes to give to the child.  This devotion to the poor continued throughout his adolescence and young adulthood.
Pier Giorgio was a handsome and athletic young man who had a joy-filled personality; and so, he also had many friends and he loved to spend time with them.  Throughout his young life, he sought to balance his devotion to his family, his friends, and to the poor.  The three he saw as equal and so gave himself to them equally (although often imperfectly).  For example, he never left for a trip with his friends (usually a hiking trip in the Italian Alps... he loved climbing!) without first making sure that the poor he knew from the streets of Turin had what they needed.  None but a few of his friends, however—and none of his family—knew of his devoted ministry to the poor.  And so, when he contracted and died from polio in 1925—at just 24 years old—his family and most of his friends were shocked to find throngs of Turin’s poor who came to his funeral to honor this young man who had served them so lovingly.
Pier Giorgio Frassati did not neglect his fellowship with his family, friends, and neighbors during his life.  Yet he nonetheless found a way to invite the poor, the crippled, the lame, and the blind to the banquets that he had prepared.  And he did so humbly: never bragging about all that he did, but rather always striving to do what he could out of gratitude for all that he had received in his life.  As Catholics, we now know him as Blessed Pier Giorgio Frassati, who is just one approved miracle away from being canonized a saint: which would indicate that he, indeed, has been repaid for serving all of those who could not repay him.
My brothers and sisters, there are countless other saints who lived the same way—and some folks here in our own community, I’m sure.  And so, let’s look to Blessed Pier Giorgio and the others to be for us an inspiration to seek how God is asking us to make this humility a deeper, lived reality in our lives.  The fact that all of these examples reveal to us is that it is possible for us to live this way; and, thus, that we cannot expect to receive the reward of the righteous if we do not strive to live it.  And so, let us look today—yes, TODAY—for ways to live this humility more deeply so that we might be more conformed to the model of righteous humility: Jesus Christ—whom we worship in this Eucharist and encounter here at this altar.
Given at Saint Mary’s Cathedral: Lafayette, IN – September 1st, 2019

Friday, February 21, 2014

If we'd only just believe...

Throw-Back Thursday on a Friday...

I was going through some old notebooks and found this reflection that I wrote during a retreat I made in 2009:

     God desires us beyond our wildest imagination.  He made us for the only reason that He wants us to live in eternal ecstasy by uniting us with Him in love.  Written in our being is a desire for God's desire to be fulfilled.  In other words, we desire what God desires, even if we don't recognize it.

     Even if we do recognize it, we often fall to fear because we think that we have to earn it.  It has already been earned, however, by Jesus.  All we have to do is let go of our pride, which we can only do by grace.  Our pride keeps us from giving our weaknesses over to Jesus for fear of shame.  When Adam and Eve sinned they hid themselves from God for fear of God seeing their weakness.  Only when we give it all to God, however, can we achieve what He desires for us.

    We must first of all believe in love if we want this to happen.  Then we can believe that we are loved and then be confident to be vulnerable in front of God.  Then, believing still, we can give ourselves over to Him completely.  Through His love we can do all things.  If we'd only just believe...

Sunday, September 1, 2013

You're invited...

...to a great wedding feast!  It's called the Holy Sacrifice of the Mass.  Come, see what you've been missing.

You can see Amy's story (which I mention in my homily) here.

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Homily: 22nd Sunday of Ordinary Time – Cycle C
          I remember fondly, back in the day when I was a kid in Joliet, how my brother and my sisters and I always used to fight for the front seat of the car on whatever kind of trip we were taking.  It could have been an out of town excursion up to Gurnee to see my aunt and uncle or just around the corner to the grocery store, but if there was more than one of us going along there was bound to be a battle for the coveted “front seat”.  Sometimes those battles were short and victory was decided quickly when one of us would grasp the advantage of foresight and yell “front seat!” as soon as mom or dad announced the trip.  Other times the battles were drawn out, the “calling” of the front seat happening almost simultaneously, usually resulting in a mad rush to the car door knowing that the unspoken rule was that if there was a tie in calling it, whoever got there first could claim victory.
          Sometimes, however, that victory would be short-lived.  Depending on where we were going, we might pick up my grandma or one of my aunts, thus deposing the victor of his or her throne and relegating him or her to the back (sometimes even to the “way-back” if we were driving the old station wagon with the rearward facing back seat).  If the victory had been hard-won, this move to the back was a disgraceful moment and the other siblings who tasted the bitterness of the loss had no sympathy for the now deposed victor: often forcing him or her to sit on the “hump seat” in the middle and thus serving him or her a healthy serving of “humble pie”.
          (By the way, since kids these days practically have to be driving themselves before they can even approach the front seat of a car, I feel justified in labeling my experience “back in the day”, even though I am still quite young.)
          I don’t think that it is much of a stretch to say that Jesus is teaching a similar lesson today.  In a way he is saying that if you try to take prestige and honor (thus exalting yourself) you will likely fall from it when one who is more deserving arrives.  His lesson is that we should instead learn humility and practice it before we are humiliated for having stepped beyond our station in life.  For my brother and sisters and I, we witnessed this when, after grandma or auntie was dropped off, my mother would choose someone to sit in the front seat for the return home.  Needless to say, it almost never was the one who fought tooth and nail to win the right to sit there in the first place.  Speaking of my experience alone, I remember being happier about having the front seat in those moments than if I had won the position outright.  Thus, practicing humility in this way reminds us of something: that all that we have is gift. ///
          Recently I encountered the story of Amy; a mom probably in her late 30’s or early 40’s who has three children.   She relates how she and her husband, not long after getting married, decided to move from their suburban home to a more rural setting.  The move was a very smooth one and both Amy and her husband found jobs right away making everything seem like it had worked out just fine.  After a couple of years, however, when the economy tanked, both Amy and her husband lost their jobs.  Obviously this was a big blow to the young family.  Amy relates that, while she never lost faith in the statement “God will provide”, she did start to question how exactly he would provide.  “Maybe God’s providence won’t include health insurance or a job or lights next week” she thought to herself.  In that she came to a realization that she said changed her whole perspective: that if all of these things that we claim to be our own in this world—our houses, our jobs, our insurance, even our family members and friends—can be lost or taken away from us, then none of it was ever really ours to begin with; and that, thus, everything must be gift.  Everything. ///
          In the reading from the book of Sirach today, it states “conduct your affairs with humility…” and “…into things beyond your strength, search not.”  For Amy and her family, this meant accepting that the gifts they had been given had been taken away and that to claim somehow that they were entitled to restitution was a false notion.  For Amy this acceptance was a freeing experience; for she knew that she no longer had to scratch and claw to keep what she had, but rather could remain detached from it: receiving it with joy as a gift when it came and letting it go to others whose need appeared to be greater.  And in doing so she learned something about God’s generosity with us.
          In the second half of the Gospel reading, Jesus exhorts the host of the dinner to consider who he invites to his dinner parties.  Instead of inviting his friends and relatives or wealthy benefactors, Jesus tells him to invite the poor, the crippled, the lame and the blind, because these would never be able to repay his kindness and thus he would find favor in the eyes of God.  In making this statement, Jesus is teaching us God-like generosity.  God gives abundantly to us, even though we have no way to possibly repay him.  Therefore, we must do the same.
          Many families are in the same position as Amy’s family was.  They’ve worked to build a secure home for their families only to find that their jobs had been cut because of the recession.  Our Scriptures today, however, show us how to cope with this kind of loss.  If we can see that all that we had was a gift—i.e. that it wasn’t something that we were necessarily entitled to—then we can give thanks, even though we no longer enjoy the gift.  And if we can see what we still have as a gift, then we can give thanks for it, too; and we will be open to sharing that gift generously with others, especially those who may have no means to repay us.  By doing so, we humble ourselves and thus make ourselves available to be exalted by God’s generosity to us.
          This weekend our nation celebrates our labor by taking a national day of rest.  I’m sure many of you will either host or participate in cookouts or other celebrations.  Perhaps in light of Jesus’ words today we should ask ourselves two questions: “Who have we invited?” and “Who have we left out?”  My brothers and sisters, as God has invited us—who are poor, crippled, lame, and blind—here to this banquet of grace—a banquet that we could never hope to reciprocate—we, too, must invite those who are far from us—those on the margins of society, as Pope Francis calls them—to enjoy the many gifts that have been bestowed upon us: most especially this gift of the Holy Eucharist.  Let us set ourselves to this good work, then, and let us invoke the help of the humble Virgin Mary, who always comes to the aid of her poor children, so that we, too, may know God’s favor now and eternal blessedness in heaven.

Given at All Saints Parish: Logansport, IN – August 31st and September 1st, 2013