Monday, September 14, 2020

The command to forgive

 Homily: 24th Sunday in Ordinary Time – Cycle A

Friends, you don’t know me, and I don’t know you, and that makes it difficult to put a homily together that speaks to the needs of your community.  Thankfully, our readings this week provide us with a theme that is broadly appealing: meaning that it applies to just about everyone in every place without needing a lot of “translation” into a particular context.  If you were paying attention during the readings, you probably already have a sense of what I mean.  Regardless, let’s take some time to look at this theme more in depth to really flesh out the message with which God is blessing us this week.

First, let’s remind ourselves of one thing.  That is, that in the Ten Commandments, there is not one that commands us to forgive anyone.  “I am the Lord, your God, you shall not have other gods besides me; you shall not use the Lord’s name in vain, you shall keep holy the Lord’s day, you shall honor your father and mother, you shall not kill, you shall not commit adultery, you shall not steal, you shall not bear false witness, you shall not covet your neighbor’s wife, you shall not covet your neighbor’s goods.”  Ten commandments, not one that says, “you shall forgive offenses”.  Nonetheless, throughout the old and new testament, an admonition—nay, a commandment—to forgive those who have done wrong to you appears.  This commandment is not arbitrary, however, but rather has great purpose: a purpose which our readings show to us today.

In the book of Sirach (which is a “wisdom” book that is a collection of wise sayings... proverbs, if you will), we find not only the admonition to forgive but the reason behind it.  In fact, let’s just read it again:

Wrath and anger are hateful things,
yet the sinner hugs them tight.
The vengeful will suffer the LORD’s vengeance,
for he remembers their sins in detail.
Forgive your neighbor’s injustice;
then when you pray, your own sins will be forgiven.
Could anyone nourish anger against another
and expect healing from the LORD?
Could anyone refuse mercy to another like himself,
can he seek pardon for his own sins?
If one who is but flesh cherishes wrath,
who will forgive his sins?
Remember your last days, set enmity aside;
remember death and decay, and cease from sin!
Think of the commandments, hate not your neighbor;
remember the Most High’s covenant, and overlook faults.

Again, not only does this reading tell us that we must forgive sins, but it tells us the reason why we must do it: for if we refuse to forgive, we ourselves cannot expect forgiveness from the Lord.  When it says, “the vengeful will suffer the Lord’s vengeance”, it echoes a teaching from Jesus: “the measure with which you measure will be measured out to you”.  Thus, the admonition to forgive is one of self-preservation!  Yet there’s also a further reason given, towards the end of the reading: “Remember your last days,” it says, “set enmity aside; remember death and decay, and cease from sin!”  In other words, “Don’t hold onto these grudges and hurts. Forgive them! Because your days are numbered and holding onto grudges threatens your readiness to receive the fulfillment of God’s covenant with you.”  Perhaps even more succinctly: “These worldly grudges don’t matter in heaven, so let them go and they won’t keep you from it.”

Then in the Gospel reading, Jesus turns this admonition to forgive into a commandment.  When Peter asks how often he should forgive someone who wrongs him, he asks with a number that was absurd: “As many as seven times?”  Jesus replies with an even more absurd statement: “Not seven times, but seventy-seven times.”  If it wasn’t serious, it be almost silly.  It would be like someone asking “When I see someone begging on the street, how much should I give him? As much as $10?” and then receiving the reply, “Not $10, but $10 million”.  It was the kind of reply that would make you pause and say, “Wait, are you serious?”  That was obviously the look that Jesus got from Peter and so Jesus proceeded to tell the parable in order to illustrate that he was, indeed, serious and why.

The point—and the reason why the admonition to forgive has the weight of a commandment—is this: God has acknowledged every offense—every sin—big or small, that any of us have committed throughout our lifetime; and when we have come before him in humility and sincerity of heart and asked forgiveness, he has forgiven them.  Not because he is compelled to forgive, mind you, but rather because he wants to forgive.  He chooses this both out of his love for each of us, but also because, as Our Father, he desires to give us the example of how we are to treat one another.  Thus, the parable in which a man is called to reckon for his enormous debt (some say that it was as much as $60 million in today’s money), but who is then forgiven of it when he begs his master’s mercy, and who then fails to show mercy to one who owes him a paltry amount, in comparison (maybe $100).  This offense is not missed by the master who then rescinds his forgiveness and sends the man to prison until his whole debt can be paid.  (Think about that for a minute: how long would you have to work washing dishes at minimum wage to pay off $60 million of debt?)

Friends, we should not get lost in the very practical nature of this parable.  Jesus is talking about mercy in worldly affairs, for sure.  The parable, however, is meant to demonstrate to us a vision of the final judgment.  All of us have racked up an enormous debt with God because of our sins.  Nonetheless, God forgives us when we turn to him and seek forgiveness (especially in the sacrament of reconciliation).  If we, then, fail to forgive the offenses of others against us (which are tiny in comparison to the ways that we have offended God), God will judge us for our lack of mercy and in turn rescind his forgiveness: sending us to a place where we will suffer until that debt is fully paid.  This place is hell and eternity is the length of time that we will need to pay the debt.

Forgiveness, therefore, is not about appearing nice—or worse yet, soft and weak—but rather about the eternal destination of our souls!  We forgive because of our gratefulness for having been forgiven and because this way of mercy is the way of the kingdom of heaven which we, as disciples of Jesus, have been tasked to proclaim to the world!  You know, everyone is out there looking for and claiming solutions to all of the strife that afflicts our world today.  I hear very few persons, if any, saying that the way out of this strife is to forgive others their offenses.  Well, let me be one who says it: there will be no way out of the strife and enmity that are embroiling our society today unless we can look at our neighbor and say: “What you did hurt me, but I forgive you.  If there is anything that I have done to hurt you, I am sorry and I beg your forgiveness.”  You and I must take personal responsibility to do this or we will never see this societal strife come to an end.

“But Father, that’s not fair!”  You’re right, it’s not fair if you’re only thinking in worldly terms.  Strict natural justice says, “An eye for an eye and a tooth for a tooth”.  Do not forget the words of Sirach, however: “Remember your last days, set enmity aside; remember death and decay, and cease from sin!”  In other words, “Pay attention to what is beyond this world and live according to those consequences, not the ones of this world.”  In the world beyond this one, we will be shown mercy to the extent that we showed mercy.  If we want unlimited mercy, then we must be unlimited in the mercy that we show to others here and now.  “But Father, won’t the wicked then prevail?”  Maybe so, but in this world only, while our souls will be preserved for eternal life.

This week and last, we’ve been treated to lessons on a number of the “spiritual works of mercy”.  Last week, Jesus gave us a very practical example of how, with great love, to perform the work of “admonishing the sinner”.  This week, he is showing us the consequences of failing to perform the works of “forgiving offenses” and “bearing wrongs patiently”.  While these negative consequences are to be avoided, there are, nonetheless, positive outcomes, too.  For when we forgive offenses and bear wrongs patiently, we, in a sense, absorb the spirit of wickedness in the world and take away its energy. 

Here’s what I mean: We all remember the “super-bouncy balls” right?  When you bounce one of these balls in a small room with nothing in it but walls, what happens?  It loses very little of its energy as it ricochets off walls repeatedly, perhaps even bouncing back and hitting you, the one who gave it its energy in the first place!  If there are some soft surfaces in there, however (an overstuffed couch or chair with pillows, let’s say) and the ball hits one of those things, then what happens?  The ball’s energy is absorbed, and it stops bouncing all together.  This is the effect of the spiritual works of mercy on evil and wickedness in the world.  As long as we resist them, trying to “fight fire with fire”, we become like hard surfaces off of which the energy of the evil and wickedness bounce and ricochet back into the world.  If we bear them patiently and offer ready forgiveness, however, we become those soft surfaces in the room which absorb their energy so as to end their destructive chaos.

Is this the way that the world proposes to solve our problems?  Nope.  Will we be mocked for proposing this as the way?  Absolutely, yes.  Does that change the fact that we are called to live and proclaim it?  Not one bit.  Friends, the fact that you are here at Mass demonstrates to me that you get this, at least implicitly.  For what we celebrate here is the ultimate fulfillment of all that I just explained: Jesus took the full brunt of force that human wickedness and evil could bring forth in his passion and he absorbed it so that the full force of the grace of God could be poured forth into the world again.  As members of his Body, we are called to continue this work of absorbing the world’s wickedness and pouring forth grace in its place so that the full flourishing of God’s kingdom can be made manifest in our time.

Only in Christ can we do this; and so, as we come forward to receive him today, let us open our hearts and minds to be filled with his strength and courage, so that we might be greater instruments of his mercy in the world.

Given at St. Mary Parish: Union City, IN – September 12th, 2020

Given at St. Joseph Parish: Winchester, IN – September 13th, 2020

Given at Immaculate Conception Parish: Portland, IN – September 13th, 2020

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